On
the day we met I had the usual first date nerves, with some added nerves as I'd
never met up with a guy I'd met online before. It's surprising what made me
feel nervous though...I've obviously had dates and boyfriends before, but never
with someone I've not met before in person, so I felt nervous not knowing how
tall the guy was, how he walked and moved, his mannerisms and just how he
interacted in day to day life really. It's hard to explain, but not knowing
these intricate details of a person's behaviour and character, did increase the
nerves!!
When we met up in person, thankfully neither of us seemed that outwardly nervous and there were no awkward silences (which are my least favourite part of first dates - there's nothing more uncomfortable than a good, long, painful silence), so both of us seemed pretty comfortable about the whole first date situation; or so I thought....
When we met up in person, thankfully neither of us seemed that outwardly nervous and there were no awkward silences (which are my least favourite part of first dates - there's nothing more uncomfortable than a good, long, painful silence), so both of us seemed pretty comfortable about the whole first date situation; or so I thought....
After chatting for a bit we decided to go for dinner, the classic, first-date scenario. Oh God, even just thinking about it now makes me feel uncomfortable. We sat down, and after ordering our drinks and waiting for our food, it literally felt like the date had become an audition which the guy in question had responded to, and I was the director who had asked him to 'portray the sensation of feeling nervous'. If this had been the case, if I had been the director of a play asking this guy to convey the emotion of nervousness to me, this guy would have got cast in the play without a moment's hesitation. He'd have NAILED that audition. He literally couldn't sit still from the moment we ordered our drinks. He'd move from holding his chin in his hand, to folding his arms, to stretching, to putting his arms behind his head, to picking up the drink and then putting it back down (without taking a sip from it), all in the space of a few seconds, without pausing for breath or to sit still for a moment. It made me feel stressed.
I've
honestly no idea what I did to make this poor guy so nervous. I do wonder if it
had something to do with me being 2 and a half years older than him, and I've
never dated a younger guy before, but whatever it was, it creeped me out as much
as I seemed to be creeping him out.
Once
the food arrived his nerves did thankfully calm down. But still, it kind of
made me feel a bit uncomfortable for the rest of the evening, worrying what I'd
done to make him so nervous.
He
did text me afterwards saying he'd found me so 'amazing' in person that his
nerves had got the better of him (kudos to him for admitting to the nerves!),
but aside from the nerves, I decided I didn't really like the idea of being a
'cougar', and I don't think he did either, from how nervous he got!....So, I
decided he wasn't my 'lobster' ('Friends' and seafood reference, how apt!) and
we should both throw each other back into the dating pool.
1940s girl x
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